Sunday, December 14, 2008

A word from the wise.

Mr. V and I both grew up in spiritual homes. Both of our fathers have held ministerial positions and Mr. V himself is following in that pattern as he studies to go into youth ministry. I love that we both have such strong Christian families and I am amazed at the blessings that are new in our relationship because of it, every day.

I am a firm believer that people are placed in your path to encourage you and press you to grow as you take steps through life. Mr. V and I have had the glorious pleasure of having so many people in our lives that have done just that for us. Both individually and as a couple. When we first started talking about our wedding, we were on the same page when it came to incorporating those special people into our special day. Besides the fact that we will have 4 ministers taking part in our ceremony, we will also have 4 different married couples that have served as wonderful sounding boards and mentors that will be sharing special words of wisdom, scripture, or a marriage related challenge during a portion of our ceremony.

It has always bothered me that the ceremony seems to get lost in the shuffle of the reception when, in fact, it is the reason everyone has gathered that day. We are bound and determined that ours will not be dwarfed in comparison and that those we hold so close will be an active part of our ceremony - not just another name on the guest list or a plate of food to pay for. We are who we are and where we are because of their encouragement and (sometimes tough) love.

My excitement about this just won't subside and I think it is perhaps because drafting the letter that we are sending out to these couples (tomorrow) was almost completely written by Mr. V. I love it when he leads and inspires me to follow. I by no means suggest that I am submissive, (those of you who know me definitely know that isn't a characteristic of my personality) I simply adore the fact that I am marrying a man who outstandingly expresses love in some of the most unexpected ways.

Without further adieu, here is the text of the letter:

Dear ____________,

Lauren and I would like to thank you for the strong positive influence you have been in our lives; whether it be as an individual or in a sense of our relationship together. We are so excited to move in the next way we feel God leading us, by joining ourselves together in marriage.

Because of our time spent with you and the strong Christian values we know you withhold we would like you to play a special part in our ceremony. Our goal is to have multiple couples that have been a wonderful example to us to share a small token of advice. It can be a scripture, a quote, a message from the heart or a piece of advice that has helped you through the many trials life holds. There will be a designated time in the ceremony for you to share your encouraging words.

Your friendship and mentorship has meant so much to us both and we hope you are able to be a part of our marriage ceremony. It is taking place in Waco, TX on July 11th at 7:11 p.m.. We will be giving you a call within the next few weeks to chat with you more about your special place in our ceremony.

We look forward to seeing you soon and hope your family has a wonderful holiday season!

Mr. & future Mrs. V

Are you incorporating any participation from friends or family into your ceremony?

1 comment:

Ray said...

very beautiful!

Love you bf.


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